November 5, 2007
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Marriage — it’s meant to be spicy.
While studying with Cindy on Saturday, we had a tangential conversation about spicy food… and somehow we came up with this phrase. We joked around about my using it as a title for my first book. It’s a bit cheesey, yes, but it has such a ring of truth to it. Marriage is meant to be spicy!!
This stands in direct contrast to the usual portrayal of marriage by the world. Case in point: in the movie License to Wed, an engaged couple is prohibited from having sex til their wedding. On hearing about this, the guy’s friend says, “No sex! I thought that was supposed to happen after the honeymoon.” This is supposed to be funny, right? It plays on the age-old belief that after marriage, there’s no more passion or romance — or fun. I hate this portrayal of marriage. Sadly, this kind of pessimistic view about marriage is prevalent in Christian circles as well. You can even hear it from the pulpit. How many times have I cringed to hear male pastors talk badly about their wives? about (their) marriage? There’s mockery and exaggeration and stereotypes galore.
But marriage is meant to be spicy. Think about it –marital sex is so beautiful that God dedicated a whole book about it in the Scriptures! Marital sex is so good, King Solomon had to write about it in metaphors in order to adequately describe it. Marriage should be synonymous to passion, romance, good, hot, satisfying sex—so good because it was so designed by God. This is marriage! I wish the world would portray marriage the way God envisioned it.
Comments (5)
hehehe… i’m glad you openly share about this.
license to wed was a ridiculous movie. i like knocked up more =]
even though i’m not catholic, i was a lil offended by robin williams over the top-ness
LOL you posted!!
I’m not married but I thoroughly agree.
cindy is lying on the couch next to where i’m sitting, and she casually said “did you read m.a.’s post?” so i proceeded to read it and found out it was inspired jointly =). hahahaha so marriage is SYNONYMOUS with spicy? oh man oh man.