June 2, 2004

• I am making public a post that was “protected” that I wrote earlier this year.  I think everyone should know.  This one is for the sisters.

   

  Please do not have sex with your boyfriend!

   

  There are very few things that make me mad.  And I’m talking about the real kind of seething anger that makes you want to pace and scream and cry out and bang your head against the steering wheel all at once kind of mad.  That’s exactly how I felt last night! 

   

  It was a scenario I’ve heard confessed to me one too many times before:  a young Christian couple crossing over the line…  They had premarital sex.  They fornicated.  Fornication – what an ugly word.  An ugly word for an ugly deed.  I use that word to make a point.  We need to stop hedging and hiding.  We need to call sin like it is and realize the grossness of it all.  God is displeased by such ugliness!

   

  And yet it is so easy to fall.  Too easy. 

   

  It occurred to me as I was talking with this beloved sister that I did not want to be having this conversation with her after the fact.  I want to have this conversation “before” so that there would be no… “fact.”  So I’m going to stop being indirect and beating around the bush.  Sexual sin is serious.  So allow me to be serious and straight to the point. 

   

  A couple of facts I want to state:  If you are dating someone, and he is not taking responsibility to guard you toward purity, then he does not really love you.  If he is not taking his responsibility to PROTECT your purity, he is not someone you want to be with for the rest of your life.  In fact, I can guarantee you that his neglect of protecting your purity will lead to a lot of resentment on your part, which will result in bickering, nagging, arguments, criticism, etc.  It will be difficult for you to trust and respect him in the future.  If you are the one who always has to bring up feelings of guilt and yuckiness about “what you just did”, then you might have to wonder whether he really does love and care for you?  1 Cor 13:7, “Love always protects…” 

   

  “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure…” (Hebrews 13:4)  This verse isn’t only talking about married people.  It’s talking about every one of us. Whatever we do now has an affect on our future marriage beds (it’ll affect our future spouse!!) and the future marriage beds of whoever it is we are messing around with today.  It’s absolutely scandalous (and stupid) to jeopardize these futures! 

   

  Sex is such a beautiful thing within the right context.  It’s absolutely fantastic in marriage (I’ve been told)!  It’s worth waiting for.  Please wait.

   

  Don’t have sex with your boyfriend!  Don’t even straddle the fence.  Don’t dance so dangerously close to the fire.  It’s not worth it to be singed and burned.    

   

  We need to submit ourselves to true accountability.  Are you willing to submit?  To take whatever precautions that are necessary in order to avoid such a devastation and to claim such a wonderful gift on your wedding night?  Please say yes… and go do something about it!!

   

  I feel so very grieved.  Grieved for her loss.  Grieved at the loss of many others.  Grieved that so many fall into these traps every day. 

   

  I’ve chosen to write this because as God’s child, you are one of His princesses, precious to Him.  And precious to me too!  I don’t want you to have to go through the kind of anguish that comes with losing your purity.  It would bring me so much grief because I know it will bring you so much pain.  And I don’t want you to feel that kind of pain.  So let’s dialogue about this.

   

  P.S.  If you’ve already crossed over the line, then let’s definitely talk about God’s SURE forgiveness and redemption.

   

  Your sister,

  Mary Ann

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