March 27, 2004
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The Worth of a Woman
In Pride & Prejudice, Miss Bingley is so in love with Mr. Darcy that she practically throws herself on him. He smirks and scoffs at her behavior with the subtlety of pretense that he doesn’t notice her advances. As audience to this interaction, I am utterly disgusted by Miss Bingley.
It brings me to this thought: Ladies, never - I repeat, never - throw yourself at a man. Just wait. Give yourself the opportunity to be wooed, pursued and won over. You are a treasure, a prize, a beauty - worth fighting for and waiting for. Don’t ever let yourself be deceived to think that you need to convince someone to love you or that you must put out for them in any way. You are a daughter of the King of kings, and therefore a princess. You are meant to be sought after.
Comments (4)
i don't think miss bingley really loved mr. darcy....i wouldn't call that love. and what about poor boys? don't they deserve to be wooed too? you are right, you should never have to convince someone you are worthy of their love, that's very unhealthy. but after reading this post, i just felt sorry for boys, somehow.
i think you came off very strong in this post... almost makes it sounds like you're saying guys are dogs that have to fight and beg to go after a women. i think there is some truth in what you're saying about girls throwing themselves at a guy... but I guess the way this entry is written makes it seem like guys have no worth.
You couldn't have said it better. I completely agree with you, Mary Ann. And yes, this is a GUY speaking!!! Haha
I just meant that girls shouldn't THROW themself on a man.
I don't know how much guys really appreciate it when women woo them. They might be flattered but I don't think they value it as much as women feel the need to be wooed. I mean... how many men really want flowers?
Someone said this weekend, "I think God has created women with a longing to be loved and men with a desire to be respected." Women's heart-need is to be cherished. Guys don't have that same heart-need.
It's just a better idea for women to wait for men to pursue them so that in an insecure, low moment in the midst of married life, the woman can always look back and remember that her husband really DOES love her because he had initiated, wooed and pursued her... That's a good reassurance for women to have, considering we as women often "expect too much."
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