January 12, 2004
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So in regard to the suggestion that I propose to someone...
Question to the guys out there: How would you (really) feel if a girl (let's say she's the woman of your dreams) proposed to you?
a. really happy and relieved that you didn't have to do the asking
b. really turned off and wishing she hadn't stolen your moment?
Comments (9)
if it was the woman of my dreams, i'd choose a... my reason is if any normal girl did it i'd know i was totally owned... but the girl of my dreams wouldn't do any of this owning business... just a one time proposal hahaha
no really... probably b... but if it was you... definitely A ahahahaha
definitely not a. not quite b. ... I mean does the girl get down on one knee and everything too? i mean, what does the girl do... pull a ring out of her pocket and stick it on her own finger? has this ever happened before?
BWHAHAHA. slamjoe's comment is too funny. i didn't even think of that. a knee slapper right there. =P
hmm. I'd hope that the woman of my dreams would not allow herself to do something like that.
umm...if she really was the woman of my dreams, she wouldn't need to propose because she would have faith in God and trust that I would propose when the timing was right. No need for her to feel insecure about our relationship and propose herself.
well, according to my boss, who's the resident expert on Leap Year, even if the woman has proposed to the man, it's still his responsibility to get her a ring and stuff.
although back in the day when that was the law in Scotland, i'm sure the engagement ring tradition hadn't started yet. i think the engagement ring is a pretty recent development in history. (probably promoted by diamond jewelers)
but if a girl were to propose, i think she should probably at least give the guy a good meal or something.
but it seems like most guys would not really appreciate being proposed to.
yeah. it was kinda heebie to me when monica proposed to chandler. totally WEIRD!!!
I'd have to go to b. I enjoyed asking girls to dances during high school
Well, see, it's more complicated. Cause what's the scenario? Is it like, someone randomly has a crush on me, and then out of the blue the proposes? Well, if it was like that, and the girl just happened to be the girl of my dreams, then I'd probably feel this sense of awe and wonder at "how did she know?" and "wow she must have guts to propose to someone randomly like that."
On the other hand, if it was someone I was already romantically involved with, I wouldn't mind I suppose. But it would have to be a good proposal. I think I would feel honored that it was so important to them that they would take the initiative and overcome a cultural barrier. As long as I didn't get the sense that they had been waiting for me to do it and I was lagging, cause then I would feel bad.
I think one situation where it could be particularly special, is if I was with some girl that I really knew I wanted to marry, but that she was doubtful for a long time. And when she finally decides, instead of just telling me, she proposes to emphasize that she really wants to marry me. That would be cool.
I'm of the "neither a nor b" camp. I'm old fashioned, so I would want to propose to the woman of my dreams. I would see it as less of a "she has stolen my moment" issue and more of a role-reversal. I think men everywhere need to step up and take leadership in their lives as single men or husbands as Scripture tells us to. Instead, it appears that men are more and more frequently sitting back and letting life pass them by... If you're going to be a leader in your marriage, your proposal should begin the process of laying down your life for the sanctification and good of your future wife...
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