November 30, 2003
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Sex is like…
When you have sex, it is like mixing flour and water together to become dough. The two different elements become one, and you can’t separate them, one from the other anymore.
When you have sex, it’s like gluing two pieces of paper together. If you try to tear them apart, a part of Paper 1 is still stuck to Paper 2, and a part of Paper 2 is stuck to Paper 1. Once you’ve become one, you’re not supposed to separate. If you do, you’re ripping each other off all over the place.
When you have sex, you become one. That’s the way it’s supposed to be. That’s why God created it in the context of marriage, of commitment, “for life.”
Sex is like fire. Marriage is like a fireplace. When you have sex within the God-ordained context of marriage, you’ve got a really warm and wonderful thing going. But when you have sex outside of marriage and fire outside a fireplace, you get massive destruction. We’ve seen that for a fact all over San Diego, recently.
If you want to have the best sex possible (in marriage!), then here’s the secret, keep as pure as you possibly can while you’re single. Then you won’t be disillusioned, disappointed, carrying hurts, wounds and baggage with you to your marriage bed.
It’s never too late to start being as pure as possible.
A conversation I’ve had on several occasions:
Friend: Mary Ann, deep down, I guess I’m worried that someone godly won’t want me. I’m sure they’d want someone who was pure. A virgin. And that’s not me.
Me: Oh, <insert your name here>, don’t you see? A “godly” person might not want you… but a truly godly person will. A truly godly person is someone who will understand what grace and forgiveness and being a new creation in Christ really means. And that’s the kind of person you want to marry.
Sex and purity. Let’s talk about it. The more we dialogue about it, the more we’re able to remind ourselves of the right way of looking at sex – sex by God’s design — rather than by the world’s distortion. As we talk, perhaps we’ll better see and live things God’s way and enjoy it according to His design.
Comments (5)
wow – like the analogies
would you mind if i cross posted?
right on, right on.
loved your response to the friend… Jesus’s compassion and grace… totally flows from those words.
let’s talk about sex (and other stuff!) sometime – i wanna know more of how you think and how you came to think it!
your profile pic is adorable, btw =)
Wow. Mary Ann has insightful posts. I agree with you entirely that we, as the Church, need to paint a much more Godly and less perverse picture of sex — even if the world doesn’t care for it, Christians need to see that sex isn’t the perverse thing that the world makes it out to be. I like your response to your friend, too by the way. Again… good insight into God’s grace.