August 11, 2003
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Uninterested
Just because someone is uninterested in you, it doesn’t make you “uninteresting.” Just because someone rejects you, it doesn’t make you a “reject” (a loser). Just because someone doesn’t accept you, it doesn’t make you “unacceptable” (i.e. invalid).
A few months ago, I had this breakthrough. I always thought that if someone decided that they were not interested in me, that makes me uninteresting and in the worse case, a reject. But then I realized that if a guy was not interested in me, it doesn’t make me uninteresting. It just means that it’s not the right guy and/or it’s not the right time. Meaning… God is doing some wonderful protecting. Ah. Now that was a new revelation!
Comments (3)
amen to that! (a personal struggle of mine too)
thanks mary ann!
Wow.. touch my heart! i feel that way too! wahh you are soo good at expressing feelings.. and wahh you’re cool. thanks for everything. you really encouragae me with your struggles. makes me feel not so alone =)
melanie
Hehe, hopefully you will see this comment (it should show up on your feedback log I think)..
Anyways, I know that thought pattern that you are talking about.. And you know, I think maybe it could be connected to this other one that I sort of have noticed in Asian culture.. In Asian culture, there is often no middle ground, no room for compromise.. Parents never know how to try to compromise, or discuss, or find a middle ground. If we listen, we are doing the “right” thing, if we even raise a question, we are challenging their authority and in the “wrong.” I think this leads to this same thought pattern, the one where if we are “rejected,” we must be “a reject.” Which of course is wrong
But you figured that out already. Yay. 